Should people adopt children of a different race?
January 24th 2009 05:18
I saw this question on a blog recently: should people adopt children of a different race?
My first reaction was distaste because the question implies a moral dilemma which I couldn't see. But it got me thinking, and a little research suggested that the question could perhaps be a fair one in some circumstances.
In the United States, for example, there are more people looking to adopt than there are children in need of adoption. This has led to many Americans looking overseas, and especially to poor countries, where for all sorts of sad political, economic and social reasons, there are plenty of orphans. Many of those Americans are caucasians whose first choice would have been a caucasian American child.
But now I find myself thinking, is this the same question? Isn't the question in these circumstances: do you understand what's involved in adopting a child from another country?
There are good reasons why people choose to adopt children from different racial or cultural backgrounds. They may have lived in another country and developed an affinity for it, for example, or they may have ancestral links.
And there are potential negatives, such as people not understanding that a child may need time to assimilate, may need help forgetting a traumatic past, and may later develop an interest in the identity and culture of their birth, an interest which the adoptive parents can't intimately share.
Internet research reveals that the experts disagree on some basic points. What a surprise.
One school of thinking is that children available for adoption need at least one parent of the same race or culture as the child so the child can develop a racial or cultural identity. Another school disagrees, saying a loving family is all that matters. A third "expert" actually suggests adoption agencies should work hard to place children with families of the same race, but failing that the child should be placed with a loving family of any race or culture.
I have returned to my original feeling of distaste. The question "should people adopt children of a different race" suggests censure. It sounds like a platform for moralising and sermonising.
It's the wrong question. The real question is simpler: is someone ready to adopt a child? Because if they are, they will know that all children are different and they have to be committed to meeting the needs of the individual. They will also know that a child - any child - will thrive on care and affection and love.
What on earth has race got to do with it?
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Comment by Janet Collins
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It is a difficult one because when one can be thought to be rescuing a baby from a fraught situation, you can actually be peddling a whole new industry.
Comment by Chris Champion
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Comment by Damo
This is to reduce black marketing, kidnapping and fraud where the clear loser in all those cases have been the adopted children.
There have been cases of couples traveling to developing nations in the hope of paying the write bribe, or meeting the right person and adopting under circumstances that would not be allowed in their own country.
However when it does work it seems to be successful.
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Comment by Morgan Bell
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these are the issues i always think of when celebrities adopt children from all over the world
i wonder what the kids are missing out on in being removed from their community and extended family, their native tongue, their history, and the cultures associated with their ethnicity
if their birth home is war-torn and their entire family is annihilated i guess the only thing that matters is that there is someone to provide and care for them
Comment by Chris Champion
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I suppose the basic needs of any child - protection, care, affection - can be provided anywhere. And I suppose that anyone having to choose between a healthy diet or cultural understanding during childhood would choose the former.
But that gives rise to:
Well put. It's a big question.